I reached out to Brian tonight after work. Really, I just had one of those strange questions that he could answer so I figured, "why not?" and sent him a text message. I wasn't really sure if he would respond since our last real conversation didn't go all that well. He didn't want to maintain a friendship the last time I tried to contact him a few years ago. At the time, I was upset because he wasn't a bad guy. In fact, he was a great boyfriend and is still a wonderful person but he stated that because our relationship ended badly he didn't want to have a go at the friendship. I didn't think it ended that badly but then my frame of reference wasn't really the greatest. Still, disappointed as I was I understood. Many people have little interest in maintain any contact with their exes. I gave him his space, saw him once at a mutual friend's wedding, and really haven't spoken since.
It's been a few years since that conversation though. We've both married since and I figured why not try again. I can happily say that it went well. Through text messages we had a simple conversation. He asked about my family, I asked about his, and we he mentioned how he was tired of the job he's at and its irregular hours. I could relate. Eventually, I did apologize for how things ended (something I didn't do in the last conversation) and we discussed that as well. We didn't work out as a couple but he is a really good guy. In the end we both let each other know that we are here for each other if either of us needs a friend.
I doubt that we will be hanging out anytime soon but it was nice to speak with him after all this time. He also said that I was a good girlfriend and that had an impact. I think there is such a huge part of me that still doesn't believe that I was a good girlfriend. I'm glad I reached out again.
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