Objectivity

First day back from vacation and I completed one of my first duties as maid of honor for my sister: I laid down the law with one of the bridesmaids.  Honestly, I had been anticipating problems with this particular person for a while so I knew it was only a matter of time before she created some sort of drama.  So yeah, not so sure how that will go down but we'll know by Saturday.  I might wake up to a scathing email tomorrow but just because my sister might put up with that kind of behavior doesn't mean that I will.  Though I think my sister is sick of her nonsense as well but I really can't speak for her and only on her behalf.

It's interesting how easy it is for me to confront someone who is being demanding and selfish toward my sister but if it is one of my friends doing that I have a greater difficulty.  I wish I could do that with some of the people in my life but I can't.  Yes, I'm honest and normally I will call someone out but there have been so many times that I just come home seething and never actually discuss it with the person who initially caused those feelings.  I avoid them until I get over it or just pretend that it doesn't exist but it does and it's not a good way of dealing with things because inevitably whatever it was that made me upset will probably happen again and again.

I wish I could have that objectivity toward my own life.  It's so easy to give others advice, stand up for others, and think of many alternatives toward someone else's dilemmas but not my own.  Sometimes I wonder what I could achieve with just that simple objectivity: to see a situation for what it is without all those silly feelings muddying up the waters.